“I don’t want to marry them” to wedding plans: where are the 8 missing episodes?

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Earlier, the person reportedly said, “I can’t see this relationship leading to marriage” and even “I don’t want to marry someone like that.” Now the relationship is heading toward marriage.

The obvious reaction is: please release the missing eight episodes.

Changing one’s mind is normal. A partner may change, trust may grow, or the relationship may stabilize. The funny part is simply the size of the jump.

“Even someone like me” adds another twist

The newer line is not “I want to marry this person,” but roughly, “Even someone like me could probably be accepted for marriage by them.”

Earlier, the speaker was judging the partner. Now the wording focuses on whether they themselves will be accepted. The person doing the choosing seems to have become the person hoping to be chosen.

That sounds self-deprecating, but one sentence cannot tell us their state of mind or why they want to marry.

There may be a whole story we have not heard

From the outside, no one can know whether this marriage is good or bad. There may have been many sensible changes between the two endpoints.

But the visible timeline is still:

“I don’t want to marry them” → ????? → marriage → “even someone like me…”

No diagnosis is needed. We need the lost season.


Go one step deeper: Why can affection fail to get through? Partners have no tails

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